Love that hurts…Love that heals…

I always wonder about the power of the words that we speak. words control us and our emotions. Words make us happy, sad, angry.. words hurt us.. words heal us.

That is the power of words. Sometimes, knowingly or unknowingly, we hurt our loved ones. Why we hurt our loved ones? Is that another form of love? Or we taken them for granted or we just not able to understand them properly. Yes, we do fail to understand our loved ones no matter how deep our relationship is..

Loving is not about finding similarities but accepting differences. Relationship starts with the process of finding similarities. It is the initial stage that make us to feel, that we are identical Gradually, we realize that, we are not identical, we too have differences just like any other person  in this world. The survival of relationship depends on this entire fact,  “Differences that make relationship and not similarities”.

In order to build a long lasting relationship, there are some responsibilities from our side irrespective of whether the person from other side does it or not.

• Never stop loving. Never stop caring. Hope for best but don’t expect anything. Love will become divine when you don’t expect anything in return. It is the form of love that a mother gives to her child. Love that hurts will turn to love that heals when it becomes divine.
• It is more important to trust your relationship than anything else. Trust gives strength.. a strength that bears the pain of wound caused by the other person in a relationship.
• Be honest. It is not necessary to share everything. But whatever you share, make sure that it is true. Being honest is very important for the survival of relationship. You spoke harsh words. You hurt the person. You spoke a lie. You cheat the person. Love can heal the wound made by hurting, but it cannot heal the wound that caused due to cheating.
• Understand the situation. Everyone has their own duties. All are busy in their own lives. Still, they try to get the time for their loved ones infact they try their best.  Most important is understanding the person in a relationship. We do everything for that person but we actually fail to understand him/her. Thorough understanding adds another 100 years to the life span of your relationship. “I can’t cry.. that doesn’t mean I am heartless”
• Forgive and apologize.  We need to learn to forgive when others make mistake and we need to learn to apologize when we make mistake.

Love heals everything. Hmmm… That’s a secret for long lasting relationship.